Day Cares are not to be trusted. I’ve spent a good amount of my life working at different ones that gave me a good idea of the truth. Parents say things all the time like, “I’ve done the research. It’s highly rated. All my friends’ kids go there. My kids love it.” All I can do is stare at them and nod. No one likes being told they sound stupid, or that they don’t know what they are talking about, but these parents just really don’t.
This so called research you’ve done probably includes walking through the facility, browsing the website filled with consumer comments, and asking around. Do you realize how easy it is to stage the place? One of the places I worked at the woman who owned the place would only stay until all the kids were dropped off. Once they were, she’d go off to do whatever she wanted until pick up, often leaving far too many children with just one or two of her other employees. Those website browser comments are rigged and easily created. You have to approve the comments before the site shows them to the rest of the world. They tell you nothing.
Asking around is like asking another ignorant parent what they think and they’ll give you the same answer you’ll end up giving to someone else. They still don’t know what happens behind closed doors. The worst one I hear though, is that the child loves the day care. What’s so wrong about that? Why do they love it so much? When you put your child in day care, you pay a huge amount of money for them to get not only care when you can’t give it to them but also you put them there to help them grow mentally and physically. Does your child, or even baby who can’t tell you what he’s done all day, sit there and watch television? Is he or she getting junk food for every meal? How often are they supervised or unsupervised? The truth is, you never know. These things can make your child happy but it’s not what you are paying for and it is not what will allow your child to profit and grow.
The worst day care I worked in was the last. When I first started, I didn’t think much of the overly affectionate woman running the place. As time went on I saw the horror show she was creating for those parents. As soon as the parent was not around, she demanded that all of the children called her Momma T. She’d play favorites and take the one she “loved” the most off campus on “errands.” Not only did the parent’s of the boy not know that, but it is strictly against the rules laid out by the owner. These kids were constantly being fed and then sent into nap times. The issue is that they were just babies. The oldest one was two years old. These toddlers and babies couldn’t tell their parents what they were being trained to do and the parents could never understand why the children would cry when they left the day care instead of when they arrived.
So please, if you have the option, avoid day cares. They are usually expensive and you never know what is in store for your children. My recommendation is that if you must have someone else care for your child, hire someone that will come to your home and care for only your children at any given time. If you are in your own home, cameras can be hidden. This way, you CAN know what’s happening to your children and that is the only way that you can know. A reasonably priced camera that can be hidden can be found here: https://www.google.com/shopping/product/4854341770952965246?safe=off&sclient=psy-ab&q=hidden+camera&oq=hidden+camera&pbx=1&bav=on.2,or.r_cp.r_qf.&bvm=bv.50500085,d.aWc,pv.xjs.s.en_US.ciY8R2R6XC8.O&biw=1024&bih=643&tch=1&ech=1&psi=eQcHUvevIum6yAGmkIGwAg.1376192387084.5&sa=X&ei=iwcHUovGO6K8yAGr7ICIAQ&ved=0CJcBEOUNMAA
Another plus to this private sitting is that your child can form a relationship with their care taker. By offering a job to someone, you’re improving the economy and giving someone a chance. Don’t worry about ages when you hire someone. Younger people are as qualified as anyone else. It’s all a matter of the person, not the age or gender. If you feel funny about someone and they still appear squeaky clean, don’t hire them. Your gut is the best judge of character.
Anyhow, good luck my friends. Keep your children safe and in the hands of someone trustworthy. The best care taker for a child is their parent (unless of course… it isn’t; the parent is unqualified). If you’d like to share other hints with fellow readers, please respond. If this has been helpful, I’d love to hear about it.
CLARIFICATION: I shouldn’t say things so generally. I know this. I’m sure not all day cares are evil, but my main statement still stands. You never know the truth and because of that you are risking your child’s well being by allowing him or her to be there.