Why I Let my Toddler Son Dress as a “Girl”

Gender Sterotypes

Doc McStuffins, Disney Junior’s awesome show about a strong, black, girl doctor for stuffed animals, has become a serious favorite for my sweet boy. His Mimi got him a doll of her that sings the, “Time for Your Checkup,” song. He’ll dance around, singing along, to that all day if we let him. I can only take that song so many times in a row though. His love for the show is apparent, and he’s gotten very good at using his manners to get an episode put on by saying, “Pease (he says please without the l) doc show mama.”

The Doc doll had a stethoscope around her neck that Caleb would take off and try to put around his own. That gave me the idea to get him a costume. This costume has a shirt with a built in skirt, pink leggings, and the doctor coat. Thankfully I am surrounded by people who understand that clothes and costumes do not define someone’s gender. I did not set out to make my kid “dress like a girl” or “be a girl.” That’s just not logical. What I did do, however, is indulge my son’s interest in this show and character by providing him a way to dress like her. I purchased the costume second hand and when I brought it home I laid it out to show him what it was. He tried putting the top on himself right away so I helped him get the rest on. He sat on the couch checking it all out. I snapped a quick picture and then he hopped off to go play cars. Now that costume is available to him, and he is able to put it on whenever he would like. That costume hangs next to his Mickey, Tigger, and penguin costumes, because that’s all it is. Something for him to make believe with and enjoy.